Whether you are just starting a relationship or already in one,
it’s important to avoid the most common pitfalls that ruin
relationships. Finding love and having a successful relationship is not
an easy task.
Many couples make the mistake of thinking things will work
themselves out because the chemistry is right between them. There’s
nothing worse than ruining a great relationship because of some
Couples should avoid these common relationship mistakes that destroy beautiful love stories and relationships.
Foundation of lies
Many people lie for different reasons. One of the most common
reasons for lying is to impress someone you have just met. This happens
often early in a relationship, where you like someone and want them to
think highly of you. It could be about how much money you make or
exaggerating some past accomplishment. At the time, it seems totally
But lies are never innocent. They build on each other, as more and
more lies need to be told to protect the first one. Eventually, it will
come out, and the longer it takes, the more lies will come crashing down
when it happens. Be yourself from the start. Don’t lie, no matter how
good it sounds or how innocent it seems.
There’s no way that this one wasn’t going to make the list.
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a relationship. It’s never okay to
cheat, so just don’t do it. If it gets to the point where you need to
become intimate with someone other than your partner, then you need to
break off your original relationship. Trying to hide it and lie about it
will catch up with you, and it will destroy the relationship and
everything you’ve already put into it.
Oftentimes in a relationship, there will be something bothering you
that doesn’t seem like a big deal. It will feel easier to just ignore
it. Be careful when doing this though, because these things tend to grow
and get worse. They almost never just go away on their own. You have
to communicate. You may be dreading confronting your partner about it,
but compared to the hardship over the long-run, and the jeopardy you are
putting your relationship in, it’s much easier to bring it up early and
trash it once and for all than to allow it fester and give rise to
Neglecting emotional needs
For some people, there are some things that are mandatory for the
emotional health of the relationship. This can include date nights, hand
holding, cuddling, or simply saying “I love you.” Everyone is different
on this score, but your partner surely has some of these needs, as do
If you are not meeting them, you are making a big mistake. Of
course, you have got to find the balance that both of you are
comfortable with by coming up with some sort of compromise when it comes
to what you both want.
Failing to communicate
Having good communication is essential to a successful
relationship. Being a good communicator is about more than just saying
what must be said. You have to be a good listener as well. It’s okay to
criticize your partner, as long as it’s constructive. A couple that can
freely communicate the bad as well as the good, are a couple that will
thrive and grow, and stay together for a long, long time.
Sometimes, two people are just incompatible, but they don’t always
realize this right away. This one is a mistake committed by both of you,
and one with no solution except to end things. Try to do this in a
polite and respectful way. Once you have figured out that you are not
right for each other, there’s no sense in trying to hurt one another
over it. You may even end up being good friends eventually.