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Romance: 18 Ways to know whether your friendship is turning into romance


Are you trying to cross the line from platonic to romantic?

We’ve all been there: falling in love with a best friend. Rejection
sucks, but learning to tell these signs for what they really are — that
friendship is becoming more — is sure to save you from much heartache,
especially when you know the difference between a friendship and
relationship.

 If you’re a man lusting for a woman, but she’s your best friend,
make sure the lust is not fleeting. This is because if it turns into a
friends-with-benefits type of situation, it might lead to more or it
might explode. And in either case, it is difficult to recover. At
best, your friendship will never be the same.

If you feel an emotional bond with your best friend, and you feel
that it is mutual and has potential to last “forever,” be prepared to
face rejection and possibly lose him or her. However, if it’s really
THAT strong of a connection, then it’ll be reciprocated, which might
make it all worth it.

Sometimes, this is your only choice. Because if you’re crazy about
someone who was once just a best friend, you won’t want to be in the
friend-zone.

 If you feel that it’s not mutual and you value having the person in
your life by any means, don’t act on it and wait it out Maybe you just
have a strong emotional bond, but it doesn’t mean that you’re IN LOVE
with the person.

If it does become a relationship, prepare for the dynamics of the
relationship to change entirely. It likely won’t be as laid-back as the
friendship; jealousy might come into the mix, and if either or both of
you are dramatic or very sensitive, prepare to face the music.

If you choose to cross this proverbial line, you have to be smart
enough to weigh all the possibilities, both negative and positive. Be
honest and upfront with yourself. Sex should be the last act on your
mind when you’re with your best friend.

Don’t ignore any potential red flags you see pop up during your
friendship. If you notice small problems now, they will become bigger
problems later with the emotional baggage added in.

So, to make sure you’re not riding that (really thin) line and
understand the real difference between a friendship and relationship,
. are 18 signs to keep you on the straight and narrow:

1. A man’s best friend can call his girlfriend if he is in trouble

So get ready to be on the next episode of Jerry Springer because
that is the road you are headed down by crossing that imaginary line,
without being upfront and honest with all parties involved.

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2. A man’s best friend can hang out with his girlfriend or potential girlfriends

But obviously, if you’re his best friend-turned-girlfriend, he will
not feel as comfortable about you knowing about or hanging around with
other women he may find or has found attractive. This will undoubtedly
create uneasiness in your relationship.

3. A man can tell you about women he’s interested in

Men often confide in their female friends in order to get a woman’s
point of view. Should he proceed or not? Telling his girlfriend about
other women he likes may not work so well, unless you have an open
relationship or these are women you both would not mind getting to know
mentally and physically.

4. A man can listen to a mouthy best friend because you are not emotionally connected

You can always hang out and speak up with your best friend and let an
intense situation cool, with no love lost. It’s not quite that simple
if the person is a girlfriend, especially if you live together. Every
decision you make becomes critical and one you have to face because of
the physical and mental connection.

A man can’t run away or dismiss himself from a woman he is in love with. He loves his best friend, but he is in love with
his girlfriend. So whether he likes it or not, he will have to deal
with a mouthy girlfriend, which takes the tension to a whole new level.

5. A man’s best friend can go out of town with her girlfriends or guy friends

This should be no problem at all if you two are strictly friends. It
will not be easy, however, for his girlfriend to just waltz out of town
with her girlfriends or male friends, without a fully documented
explanation.

6. A man’s best friend can have the spare keys to his home

Girlfriends are usually too nosy early on in a relationship. For
example, a man might be reminiscing by looking at an old photo album of
an ex that he just happened to leave open while he was rushing out to go
to the airport. A best friend would just look and say, “I remember her”
and close the book.

 A girlfriend, on the other hand, may want to know “who, what, when,
where, and how?” She may even draw the conclusion that his business trip
is really a rendezvous with this old fling.

7. A man’s best friend can have all-access to his personal life

Oftentimes with a girlfriend, there may be some stories in his past
he may never feel comfortable telling her about. Do not take it
personally. Some men may be just too embarrassed.

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A best friend would just laugh it off, but the same stories may
destroy his girlfriend’s perfect image of him, e.g., “That’s what you
used to do?” She might not be able to handle stories from his past, not
truly taking into account that his past experiences, good or bad, helped
make him into the man he is today, the man she currently loves.

We don’t all have perfect, fairy-tale lives. But it’s not about who you were; it’s who you are now that matters the most.

 8. A man’s commitment to his best friend comes without the drama of being in a relationship

A man who is in a committed relationship obviously has certain
expectations to live up to, and if he fails, it is often fatal and
filled with emotional trauma.

Are you prepared to take the place of the girlfriend in the life of
the object of your affection, also known as your best friend? Ready to
take the gamble and either lose it or gain it all?

9. A man sometimes uses his best friend as a scapegoat

A female best friend may not like this idea so much, because it can
put her in an awkward position, especially if she is tight with his
girlfriend. But in an emergency situation, she would rather not see
their relationship fail because of a stupid mistake he made.

 We are not condoning this behavior. We all make mistakes. For
obvious reasons, it is a lot harder for a man to use his girlfriend as a
scapegoat, although some men have used reverse psychology to find a
way.

10. A man enjoys listening to his best friend; he has no
option but to listen to his girlfriend if he wants his relationship to
last

Best friends truly listen; girlfriends often hear the words that are
coming out of his mouth but fail to listen. Girlfriends tend to listen
when they are happy but not when they are upset.

11. A best friend accepts a man for who he really is; she knows his inner secrets

Girlfriends are infamous for not accepting the reality of a situation
until the end, when all hell breaks loose. Perhaps they had always
painted a picture in their mind of the perfect relationship, or perhaps
they took a scene from their favorite romance and filled in the blank
spaces with his name and picture.

12. A man’s best friend has no right to be jealous

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A BFF will not be as intensely jealous as his girlfriend,
because there is no sexual component to their relationship that brings
on feelings of jealousy and possessiveness–weapons of mass relationship
destruction.

13. A man can and will desire his best friend (but it doesn’t mean anything will come of it

It does not matter what a man’s best friend looks like, but men
always desire the most attractive girlfriend they can find.  Body type,
look and feel all matter as much as inner beauty when choosing a
girlfriend.

14. A man’s best friend doesn’t need him to take care of her the way a boyfriend would

A man is supposed to be the head of the household in a relationship or family. A man’s best friend governs herself.

15. It’s easier to trust a best friend than it is to trust a girlfriend who has feelings for her man

Eventually, girlfriends and baby mamas are more apt to turn on a man.
The more the emotional investment in the relationship, the harder the
whiplash. Love has an equal but opposite energy, often witnessed in
failed relationships: hate.

A best friend is not physically and emotionally attached to the
relationship in the same way, so the whiplash, if any, is minimal.

16. A man’s best friend can criticize him without him freaking out

Friends usually say something negative and a man will respect her
opinion (but not always agree), because it usually comes from a place of
pure love and without her personal bias. A girlfriend’s negative .
usually come with a mixture of love, bias, emotions and her will for him
and the relationship.

17. A man’s best friend does not rely on her best friend to supply her happiness

How many times have you heard a woman say to a man, “You do not make
me happy”? It is more of a mutual exchange of energy between her and her
best friend. A girlfriend relies on her man to bring and be her
happiness.

Ladies, for the record, that is a lot of pressure to put on any
relationship. Happiness comes from within yourself and compliments the
happiness you hope to find in another person.

18. A man’s best friend is a safe place when it comes to money

Trusting a girlfriend with money will take quite some time. A woman
who is upset with a man, nine times out of 10, will make a wrong and
unfair decision and justify it based on how she feels and not how she
would want to be treated if the shoe were on the other foot.

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Updated: 6th May 2018 — 9:43 pm